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Comment on The Meaning we Make Up (part one) by Darren Adwalpalker

Darren Adwalpalker — Thu, 17 May 2012 22:45:02 +0000

This has been a helpful concept for me as I’m in a time of criticsm and scrutiny. The tempation is for me to assign meaning that I’m not good enough or I’m not working hard enough. Following that path will lead me to discouragement and burnout. I’m learning to become more self-differentiated and look for truth in what’s said and let go of what doesn’t ‘fit.’ It’s like digestion where we break down the food and absorb what’s healthy and… well, you know what happens to the other stuff…

Comment on The Meaning we Make Up (part one) by filbertsteiner

filbertsteiner — Mon, 14 May 2012 17:09:24 +0000

Cool article. It seems like a lot of life’s tragedies/hurts are self-imposed, but I’ve never really thought about how we make up reasons for situations that we don’t “deserve”, and more importantly, how those made up reasons can affect our lives.

Comment on Playing to Win! (part two) by Darren Adwalpalker

Darren Adwalpalker — Tue, 08 May 2012 22:58:48 +0000

Thanks for encouraging us to reexamine our frames. In reading your article, I realized how it would be comfortable and convenient for me to ‘take my foot off the gas’ after finishing the Refocusing process- not realizing that now is just the time to continue to move forward and into missional effectiveness. The process gave us clarity, NOW we actually get to have an impact. I see the congregation is taking thier cue from me- so I’m getting more personally involved in mission than before- which leaves less time for administration, details, email- all the ‘safe’ stuff that it’s easy to get buried under, and stay protected.

Comment on Stealing Second (part two) by Darren Adwalpalker

Darren Adwalpalker — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 19:39:57 +0000

I LOVE the analogy. I remember playing baseball and getting the sign from the coach to steal the base. It was both scary and exhillarating at the same time. The real possibility of being thrown out- yet, even when I was, my teammates would always give high-fives and slaps for putting myself out there and giving my all. They knew the game wasn’t won or lost on a stollen base. In fact, it’s the spirit of the person WILLING to be thrown out who often ends up carrying the team to victory. Quinn in Deep Change says ‘Unless you’re risking losing your job, you’re not doing your job.’ Even if our current efforts towards living missionaly fail (from a numbers or budget standpoint), I can see coach Jesus waiting in the dugout with a smile for being willing to risk in order to gain. Isn’t that what He did?

Comment on Stealing Second (part two) by Jean-Marie Jobs

Jean-Marie Jobs — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 17:10:43 +0000

great one, Kirk!! I really enjoy reading your blogs.

Comment on Stealing Second (part one) by Kirk Kirlin

Kirk Kirlin — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 00:33:48 +0000

Thank you, Darren. Jesus stood as an interruption to so much of what had become a very bizarre misinterpretation of how God intended that we understand him and live as a result. So much of his teaching, relating, and behaving was an affront to the prevailing worldview in that culture.

How many times did he say, or allude to: “You have heard…BUT I SAY UNTO YOU…”.

One example: Jesus’ focus was on THE HEART. The religious elites were fixated on outward behavior and appearances. Jesus kept interrupting and kept demonstrating a new way to be. A new way to be with outcasts, with the powerful, with foreigners, with religious leaders, with children, with the duplicitous, with the wealthy, etc. That’s a lot of what you and I get to do.

We get to stand as a interruption to what’s not working and to model another way to be.

If you think about it, the Twelve were Jesus’ “pioneers”. It’s with them that He spent the majority of his time. Those who were open to his leadership, his influence, his message. Those who responded to His invitation to live a new way.

Friedman was clear: “The unmotivated are invulnerable to insight.” Jesus spent little time trying to convince those who opposed him… except when constrained to do so! Think about it.

When leading change of this magnitude, we have to surround ourselves with those who are willing to go where God is leading us. We’re unwise to exhaust ourselves trying to reason with people to go where they’re unwilling. It’s tough enough to make ourselves go where we actually want to, isn’t it?

Sadly, in Jesus day, most didn’t have the stomach to follow Him… to pay the price to be a disciple. Undeterred, Jesus showed the way to everlasting life for those who were thirsting for it.

So do you.

Comment on Stealing Second (part one) by Darren Adwalpalker

Darren Adwalpalker — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 21:16:59 +0000

Great article. And very encouraging for me. As our chuch is ‘leading off’ and stepping out into mission, we’ve recently had a backlash of people saying ‘we can’t go and serve others- there are still people in our congregation who are being overlooked.’ When pressed, they are unable to name anybody to back up their claim. ‘We have to take care of ourselves’ is the message. It’s astounding to me. I’m committed to being an interruption to that kind of unbiblical and self-centered thinking.

Comment on Committed Action (part four) by Donald Keele

Donald Keele — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:40:46 +0000

Excellent Kirk…I think this is what you are talking about.

http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2012/03/22/texas-atheist-flabbergasted-by-outpouring-of-christian-charity/

And I think they got it right.
Don Jr.

Comment on Committed Action (part three) by Don White

Don White — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 14:47:42 +0000

Kirk, this is a great series. I am going to be using it as a study for my board. Keep on keeping on, Brother!

Comment on Committed Action (part two) by Jeff Merry

Jeff Merry — Mon, 05 Mar 2012 14:43:47 +0000

My son is 25 and he has no desire to attend church. Your statement, “Consider how the passification and cerebralization of contemporary Christianity has contributed to the scarcity of young adults in our churches.” is so true.

Thanks.