As Edwin Friedman noted more than twenty years ago, most pastors are leading chronically anxious emotional dwarfs. In many systems, the Church has become a hideout for the immature.

To me, this is really sad. Of course, there are many reasons why some are emotionally immature. Some of those reasons involve factors beyond their control. People need help with those issues. At the same time, the church doesn’t have to coddle people in their immaturity.

Instead, those of us in church leadership can call our congregations to something more by reminding them of their identities in Christ. And when believers stand on the promises of Jesus, we can be the most powerful, clear, selfless, and confident people on the planet.

God-defined people with a non-anxious presence.

–Kirk Kirlin, from the book “Leadership Courage,” more at


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