I subscribe to an excellent service called Leader’s Book Summaries [www.StudyLeadership.com]. I highly recommend it. In a summary of David Murrow’s “Why Men Hate Going to Church” I learned that only one third of church attendees are men—and most of them are over 60. It’s almost impossible to find adults of either gender under age 40 in church.

How come?

Consider these two lists of values.

The first list: Love, communication, beauty, relationships,

support, help, nurture, feelings, sharing, harmony, community, and


And, the second list: Competence, power, efficiency, achievement, skills, results, accomplishment, technology, goals, success, and competition.

Which list of values do you think is most consistent with the culture that predominates the North American Church today?

The first list or the second list?

Both lists come from John Gray’s “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” and they distinguish culturally “masculine” and “feminine” values.

What do you see?



-Kirk Kirlin, from the book “Leadership Courage,” more at www.KirlinCoaching.com/blog/

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