Our over-commitment to be kind has left our people immature and shallow.

Edwin Friedman suggests what Paul modeled: it is through challenge that we promote responsibility in our people. To be a leader who will jar your people to maturity you must raise your pain threshold.

It follows then that you must also raise your threshold for the pain you cause others. This means in part that we are willing to turn on the light to reveal areas of our own lives that we’d rather keep hidden. It also means we lovingly expose others to that same light.

-Kirk Kirlin, Leadership Courage