Because of the preponderance of the teaching grace in American churches, you get a dysfunctional over-emphasis on teaching as the means of evangelism. Whenever you are with anyone, you create an experience in that person. When you keep trying to teach those who are not postured to learn, what do they experience? It’s like scratching someone where they don’t itch. It is irritating. Trying to teach those who don’t want to learn creates the experience of annoyance, condescension, and frustration—not openness. And, worst of all we do this in the name of Jesus. -Kirk Kirlin, from my upcoming book: Leadership Courage