The Truth about Trust (part two)

Years ago I participated in a ministry that conducts potent character development workshops. Life-changing transformations happen over the course of a weekend. It was a privilege to host or help lead almost thirty workshops across the country.

Invariably, people came because of disappointment with their most important relationships. As each workshop unfolded a familiar pattern recurred:

People had been hurt.

Hurt by parents, an ex, a boss, roommate, business partner, or lover.

They pulled back.

distrust 2Then, another disappointment.

They pulled back further.

Each time, more cautious.

Withholding trust.

Hiding the heart, hoping to protect it from harm.

Rendering them lonely, isolated, distant from those they love…

And, here’s the rub. Distrusting others may well be “wise” on one hand, but it leaves us empty on the other.

See, we’re all in relationship with human beings.

And humans fail.

We’re frail.

Limited.

Inconsistent.

Sometimes, even the best of us are selfish.

playing small 2Cowardly.

Entitled.

Because we’re human, we get tired.

Discouraged.

Weary.

We play safe. We play small.

We miss opportunities to live big, generous, courageous, God-honoring lives…

And, when we do, those we love are left holding the bag.

Disappointed.

If they do what so many do, they’ll pull back from life, from others. They’ll withhold trust.

And, this leaves them lonely, isolated, and distant from those they say they love.

While I’m sure it seems callous, you can trust this: people will fail you.

They will.

So what?

turtle 2Will you withdraw?

Hide?

Will you “turtle” as a way to protect your precious little tail, and feet, and head?

Safe, in your shell.

Safe and alone.

Will you withhold trust from everyone, or just men, women, people in authority?

God has made you, not just a “conqueror”, but a “more than conqueror” through Christ. [Rom 8:31-37]

That’s God’s doing.

God intends you and I to be so secure, so confident in Jesus Christ, that nothing dissuades us.

Imagine being un-discourageable…

No matter who fails you. No matter how often others drop the ball.

You are clear and confident in your Savior…and connected to people, open, trusting, and vulnerable.

Why not?

 

The Truth about Trust part two.docx

KRK 6/4/2015